The best thing about best friends is having someone who knows you well. They don’t cross the line, they don’t make you feel uncomfortable, and they don’t overstep their boundaries. The problem with new friends is they’re like a box of chocolates…you never know what you’re going to get.
New friends may not know you well and that can be a difficult mountain to climb especially when there are insurmountable differences in upbringing, philosophies, and culture. When your forced to experience an obnoxious friend who doesn’t seem to quite understand they are crossing many lines with you, it’s important to say exactly how you feel and create an atmosphere for compromise so you can move forward or part ways if necessary.
I’ve recently come across a person who doesn’t listen when spoken to, who doesn’t understand boundaries when they’re expressed, and who doesn’t understand the notion that ‘if you make your bed hard you must lie in it and if you make your bed soft you will lie in it as well’. When friends do bad things they must understand that others see two birds of a feather flocking together and although one may not be participating in the same bad behavior the other will be grouped accordingly just because they are friends. When friends are obnoxious and constantly work at annoying people, saying inappropriate things about people, and believe in telling people off it can prove to be difficult to avoid the backlash of how others respond to that. As a friend I’ve tried to bring it to their attention but they only ignored the advice.
Friendship is all about being considerate, listening and hearing what someone has to say. Friendship is about having some one’s back and not forcing some one’s hand. Friendship is about realizing you’re not always right and everyone else is not always wrong. Friendship does not hurt it should help and people should learn to be good to others for the pure sake of having people be good back. Every battle is not worth fighting and you don’t have to tell someone off to get your point across. If you don’t like someone, you don’t have to make them a part of your world and if your true intention is being a friend then listening and receiving advice is a big part of the process.
When you encounter an overly obnoxious friend it helps if you express exactly how you feel and let them know that you don’t appreciate the way they are behaving. You never know how they will feel about it but at least you didn’t sit back and tolerate it. There’s no point in being friends with someone who truly doesn’t care how they affect the people around them and their behavior doesn’t just affect them it affects you as well. If they want to be your friend they should remember to consider how they make their friends look when they are participating in all that obnoxious behavior.
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