In our previous report we discussed interfaith marriages, in-laws and the demise of Katy Perry’s marriage to Russell Brand. We spoke of how interfaith in-laws may pose challenges in a relationship and now a new report published on September 27, 2012 by Entertainment Wise takes a closer look at one of the issues we presented. The article addresses Katy Perry’s parents and their hopes that she will lose interest in John Mayer and take her reportedly close friendship with Robert Pattinson to an intimate level. Meanwhile, Pattinson’s friends are reportedly against his rumored reconciliation with Kristen Stewart. With so much dating advice offered from friends and family members, it can seem difficult to discern what it is the heart wants. Read on as we delve into these issues and explore how they affect our relationships.
Report: Katy Perry’s Parents want her to date Robert Pattinson, not John Mayer
On September 27, 2012, Entertainment Wise quoted a source that spoke to Hollywood Life and stated that Katy Perry’s Christian parents, Keith and Mary Hudson, are firmly against their daughter’s budding relationship with 34-year-old Grammy award winning singer John Mayer. Instead, they hope that Perry’s reportedly close friendship with “Twilight” and “Cosmopolis” actor Robert Pattinson may develop into an intimate relationship as the actor has suffered a wounded heart after his longtime girlfriend, Kristen Stewart, was caught cheating on him in July 2012.
Perry’s parents’ worries are not without cause as Mayer has a bit of a reputation as being a womanizer. He has dated many well-known, beautiful and talented celebrities such as Jennifer Anniston, Taylor Swift, Jessica Simpson, Minka Kelly and Jennifer Love-Hewitt. While dating a number of famous women doesn’t qualify someone for being a womanizer, the allegations have been made over a controversial interview Mayer granted to “Playboy” in 2010. Mayer spoke in descriptive detail about his sexual relationships with both Anniston and Simpson.
Pattinson, on the other hand, has lived the past four-years under intense public scrutiny, and has yet been linked to any scandals, controversies or a string of women. Though many would readily agree that Pattinson seems a better choice for Perry, there comes a time when parents, family and well meaning friends need to carefully consider how much dating advice they give, as well as the manner in which it is presented. It’s especially important to carefully guard your words when someone has recently suffered the pain of infidelity or divorce. Perry’s divorce was officially finalized in July 2012, the same time that Stewart’s affair with Rupert Sanders, director of “Snow White and the Huntsman” went public.
According to Entertainment Wise, Pattinson and Perry grew close and find they can be very comfortable with one another. Earlier this month, Perez Hilton reported that Pattinson’s close friendship with Perry made Stewart uncomfortable and though she had cheated on him, prompted her to give him the third degree regarding his relationship with the pop star.
“Katy has been trying to be as supportive as she can for Rob. She understands what he’s going through and wants to help him. Katy has been urging Rob to go out and be silly and have fun,” Entertainment Wise quoted a source in their article.
Now Magazine addressed the issue in an article published on September 27, 2012, as their source shared Perry’s parents’ views on Mayer.
“They find his attitude to women reprehensible. They’d love Katy to go out with someone nice like Robert Pattinson – not a man with John’s reputation,” the article stated.
While many readily agree that Pattinson has a better reputation than Mayer does, Perry is 27-years-old and should follow her heart when it comes to matters of love. As well meaning as family members and concerned parents are, the decision of whom Perry dates is ultimately hers.
Report: Friends of Robert Pattinson against Kristen Stewart Reconciliation
Just as Perry is receiving advice to stay away from Mayer, reports state Pattinson is receiving advice to keep his distance from Stewart. In another report published by Entertainment Wise on September 27, 2012, sources were quoted as saying that though Pattinson and Stewart have reportedly moved forward with reconciliation, his friends are highly against it and have advised him to think of himself first.
Pattinson has reportedly been given dating advice that runs the gamut from taking Stewart back in order to promote the last film in the “Twilight Saga: Breaking Dawn Part 2,” to staying away from her completely and to move on with someone else, like Katy Perry. When a person is grieving the loss of a loved one from divorce or infidelity, it can be difficult to know the right decision to make. It often takes plenty of soul searching, patience and listening with an open mind and heart to all opinions presented in order to know the best path to choose.
It should also be stated, however, that unwanted dating advice may feel intrusive and cause the recipient to become defensive. There is always a fine line between someone being genuinely concerned for another’s well being and trying to control another person’s life. When dating advice is presented, it is always best to state your opinions by saying something such as, “I feel that this person may hurt you again, therefore…” rather than insulting someone’s choice in a partner or making them feel degraded for making poor choices.
Share your own personal situations and experiences when giving dating advice for the best reception. Though the listener will ultimately choose what is best, giving dating advice in a non-threatening and non-judgmental manner can help the decision-making process. Those who are dealing with pain should be spoken to in a compassionate and understanding manner.
Sometimes, the best advice is given through support and a friendly ear, rather than dictations of how someone ought to live his or her life.
One of the most challenging situations, however, is when family and friends make it known that they have a clear dislike of someone’s choice in partner. This can ultimately backfire and cause a person to draw away from those who do not approve of their choices, rather than create an environment where advice may be freely given.
By keeping communication pleasant and lighthearted, and by sharing personal experiences, friends and family members can give dating advice without pushing the listener away.
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