On September 27, 2012, Radar Online exclusively reported new information in the troubled relationship between “Twilight” co-stars Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart. Pattinson and Stewart suffered a public break-up when in July 2012, Us Weekly published photos of Stewart with her “Snow White and the Huntsman” director Rupert Sanders in a series of intimate positions. Sanders is married to Vogue model Liberty Ross, while Pattinson and Stewart have reportedly dated for four years. The publication of the photos threatened both couple’s relationships and portrayed Stewart in a new, public light that was far from the young, innocent heroine of her “Twilight Saga” films. Radar Online exclusively reported that both Stewart and Sanders have admitted and proved to their partners that though they had crossed some lines in their relationship and had engaged in extended kissing sessions, they never actually had a sexual relationship. Stewart was able to prove the claim to Pattinson through a series of voice mail messages and e-mails that verified her story. The news highlights the issues of emotional affairs, trust and sings that you are ready to cheat.
“Kristen and Rupert both told their respective partners that they didn’t actually have sex. Kristen was absolutely steadfast that she only engaged in several make-out sessions with Rupert but never slept with him. Rob didn’t believe her in the beginning but as time wore on he accepted her explanation. Kristen has given Rob passwords to her voicemail and e-mail account to prove she has nothing to hide and will do anything to get his trust back,” a source close to the situation told Radar Online.
The revelation that Stewart and Sanders never had sex brings up the issue of emotional affairs and trust. It is unclear whether Stewart and Sanders planned to have sex yet the affair was revealed before the two had the chance, or whether each struggled with issues of guilt and the attraction they felt and were able to restrain themselves from becoming sexually intimate. Emotional affairs are very real and can result in couples taking attention away from their partners and placing them on another person. Emotional affairs are often precursors to physical affairs and can create extreme tension in a relationship. When emotional affairs are revealed, they can destroy trust in the primary relationship.
Did Kristen Stewart have an emotional affair with Rupert Sanders?
Read below for more information on emotional affairs and warning signs that you may be ready to cheat.
What is an Emotional Affair?
An emotional affair develops when someone begins to turn to another person for the emotional support they need rather than seeking that attention and support from their partner. Emotional affairs are common in the workplace as those who work together often spend more time together than one may spend with his or her partner.
It’s important to understand the primary basis behind emotional affairs and why they are viewed as infidelity, even if there has been minimum to no physical contact involved. The entire, underlying basis of being in a committed relationship is exclusivity. It is the process of saying that you have selected one person, above all others with whom you will be intimate. Even though emotional affairs may not involve sex, they are viewed as infidelity because they betray the nature or exclusivity of a relationship. By turning to another person for emotional support, comfort, or to complain about issues in a personal relationship, you are essentially stating that you are no longer 100% committed to the exclusivity of your relationship. Emotional affairs are often precursors to physical affairs, however, they don’t always develop into physical relationships. Emotional affairs can develop into long-lasting friendships, but they always threaten the future of a present relationship and involve a degree of secrecy. Emotional affairs are hidden from partners, as it is clear that a partner would not approve of the level of intimacy being shared with another person.
Attractions are a natural part of life. Being married or in a serious relationship does not mean that you will never feel attraction to another person again. A committed relationship does mean, however, that when presented with attractions, you will make a concerted effort not to explore those feelings or dwell on those connections. By recognizing signs of an emotional affair you can reduce the risk of cheating on your partner.
Signs of an Emotional Affair
- Daydreaming about being with someone other than your partner
- Wanting to share important moments with someone else before your partner
- Feeling more excitement about being with another person rather than your partner
- Confiding in someone regarding your relationship problems rather than working them out with your partner
- Behaving in a manner with another person that you wouldn’t want your partner to see, hear or witness
- Comparing your partner to another person and finding your partner lacking
- Forming a secretive relationship with a person that is hidden from your partner
Emotional affairs are easy to develop and often begin innocently. Co-workers may simply “hit-it-off” or have multiple things in common. They may begin as friendships that develop into sharing more intimate details than what a partner would approve of.
Partners still feel that a betrayal or unfaithfulness has occurred due to the level of intimacy that takes place during an emotional affair. For those who want to avoid infidelity and remain faithful to their partner, recognizing an emotional affair, and ending it quickly is the best approach.
Some choose to take steps to avoid emotional affairs from developing in the first place. Limiting contact with those to whom you are attracted is often the best way to prevent emotional affairs from blossoming.
From Radar Online’s report, it seems that Stewart and Sanders embarked upon an emotional affair that jeopardized the future of both their relationships. As the affair has been made public and Stewart has apologized, it would be foreseeable that the couple could easily move past this betrayal and enjoy a strong, healthy relationship.
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