Would you say that your mood influences your spouse for the better or worse? Maybe it can go both ways. If you’re in a bad mood can it bring down your spouse, or if you’re in a good mood can it left up your spouse? But, can your constant good mood be annoying to your spouse?
Let’s face it; we’re not always on the same page with our spouse when it comes to our mood. You’ve both got jobs to do, a household to run, and maybe even children to raise. So the time you spend alone together is limited. How can busy spouses, especially those dealing with a daily lifestyle, build a sound, lasting relationship in such a high-speed, ever changing world?
A loving relationship needs careful attention and constant nurturing. But it’s easy to lose sight of that when you’re racing through the day, trying to meet so many other demands. Those kinds of things can set the stage for a bad mood, unless you look at it differently. Some people are just positive people.
Here is what Kevin Thompson shared on the topic. “One of the first things I can remember criticizing my wife about was that she was always saying “today I will choose joy.” It really got on my nerves. I think I am a positive guy, but one day I finally broke down and told her that her positivity was getting on my nerves. Well, I got a little of my own medicine this weekend.”
“We were mulling over chores that needed to be done this past weekend and Simone was very upset that she had to clean her bathroom. I tried to make it a “no big deal, easy thing.” Apparently the blue bird of happiness was chirping a bit too loudly on my shoulder and she yelled, “Kevin, not everything is happy, happy, sunshine and rainbows!”
“It was then that I realized that I was getting on HER nerves with MY positivity. Well, the bathroom got cleaned, no blood was shed, and I got to keep my head up on my shoulders.” “So, today I choose joy. My wife is facing some uncertain and potentially dangerous medical issues, but she refuses to give in to despair.”
“She called me from Mardel’s and announced that she had found a plaque fit to be hung over our door. It said simply “Today I will choose joy.” She does. I do, and I hope you do as well.” “Try to irritate someone with your positivity today.”
Thanks Kevin, I would say she is a positive influence for people than just you. Being that level of motivating spouse is not easy for most whatever the scenario is their lives. It’s not enough to love your spouse, and it’s never too late to become true companions.
For long-term happiness, couples need to genuinely like each other – to be both lovers and friends. Friendship develops from shared values and mutual empathy. Spend more time having fun. Get involved in a “joint venture” that interests you both – gardening, making home improvements, or volunteering at church.
Or take up a new hobby together, like dancing, jogging, or sporting events. I would have say, stay in your positive vibration state. Don’t allow your spouse or mate to pull you out of alignment with the Universe. When you feel yourself drawn into it, take a walk, go play with the kids, read a book, go have lunch with your best friend and continue to think and feel positive about yourself, your life and the good qualities in your partner.
Who knows, that positive attitude could just rub off on someone…including your spouse. Demonstrate how your life has changed by just being happier, more upbeat, less stressed … and soon your partner may want to know what it is that has changed you and how he can he/she get some of it. If you can remain positive despite the stressors in your life, so can they.