Best advice: slow down and enjoy the ride.
Are you one of those Photo-shoppers – one who only looks at the online picture and never reads the profile? Do you quickly scan 10 pictures a day on the online dating site and give up? Slow down, Binkie.
Enjoy the online dating experience. Rather than rushing to push the ‘delete button’ as you read online dating profiles, take the time. Try this: reach out and connect. Send two emails out each day. An introductory email can be short and sweet. You never know whom you will meet. Be open, and drop those silly pre-conceived notions.
The Berkeley Babes Get a Bad Rap
Fact: Not every ‘Single and 50’ Berkeley woman drives an antique Volvo, wears Birkenstocks, has gray hair, chides makeup and hides in voluminous skirts. Stereotypes abound. ‘Walnut Creek Wilson’ hesitated when he received an e-mail from a Match.com woman named, ‘Babs of Berkeley.’ He said her only picture was taken from afar. She was into photography, pottery, and playing pool. Wilson admits that was going to brush her off- then decided to engage. They exchanged numerous e-mails, spoke on the phone, met for coffee at Peet’s on Fourth Street and have been inseparable ever since. He readily admits her photograph didn’t do her justice. That was three years ago. (Big lesson here, boys and girls– pay attention to your photographs – post the best ones.)
The Voice of Reason
Chrissie, the self-proclaimed ‘poor little Match.com girl’ and ‘Palo Alto Ron’ exchanged wonderful e-mails for two weeks. She was smitten. Finally, schedules matched and they spoke on the phone. She said he sounded like froggy John Madden, and she call the whole thing off. Her friends -smarter and less superficial- advised her to wise up and meet Ron. She did. Cupid’s sprayed love and Eros and they’ve been together for two years.
Be an Open-Minded Sport?
Henry swings a tennis racket and a golf club every week. He works out three times a week and rides a bike every day.
He is a real jock and he vowed he would only date another jock- then he met Lisa. She is a young grandmother, an accomplished sculptor, walks on Ocean beach each evening and doesn’t “do” sports. Henry saw Lisa’s profile on OkCupid – it seemed they had nothing in common except they both volunteered for Guide Dogs for the Blind. On an impulse, he reached out and found out they could talk for hours, loved the same books (Steig Larsson and Stephen King) and both were from Brooklyn and were each the youngest of six children. Bam! Henry woke up and changed his mind and his heart. That all happened in 2009. It’s been very happily ever.
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Don’t give up and don’t stereotype people based on superfluous information or silly ideas. Go outside and play.
“Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.” Conrad Hilton