If you are a regular reader of mine, you probably already read my article from Tuesday, September 25, 2012 entitled What women should men avoid? Very few authors offer advice on this subject. I received more feedback from male readers for this article than any article I have ever written on The quadrust.com within the first 24 hours after an article of mine was published, and the second highest amount of feedback from male readers overall (the most feedback I have received overall from male readers was for my article entitled, How women respond to you often times depends on the “Alpha male” vs “Beta male” dynamics; For most of my articles, I usually receive more feedback from female readers than men).
99% of the advice men want from me is usually related to how to approach a woman, how to initiate a conversation with her, and ultimately how to get her to become their next girlfriend or casual sex partner. Less than 1% of the questions I typically receive usually have to do with men asking me what women to AVOID pursuing.
Most of the time, the questions I receive are more along the lines of, “Hey Alan, what do I need to do to get laid with more chicks this year than last year,” or one of my favorites, “Alan … I just met two women at the same party, and I have them on the verge of agreeing to a threesome with me. Any tips on how not to screw it up?” Men looking to sow their wild oats crack me up. Gotta love ’em.
This time though, I received questions like, “Hey Alan, how can I distinguish between genuine romantic interest from a woman and insincere interest from that same woman? There is this one woman who I am really into, but I cannot tell if she just wants to mess with my head” or “Alan, I have been in a relationship for three months now with a new girlfriend, and she seems fine right now, but sadly, she is slowly but surely starting to reveal some ‘red flag’ qualities and quirks, and I am beginning to become worried. What are your thoughts Alan?” See ladies … not all men are ‘shallow’ (a common label thrown at men known for looking for casual sex) and only looking for one-night stands and weekend flings.
In the last month or two, I have had as many as three male supporters of mine ask me questions related to how to quickly and effective identify women who either a) were more-than-likely going to ‘string them along’ for a few days or a few weeks, and then eventually reject them / not have sex with them, or b) if the women did become these men’s new long-term romantic companions, they would end up causing the men a high degree of stress, frustration, and regret in the long-run.
When I offer advice to men, not only do I tend to recommend that the men read my own books, but at least half of the time, I will recommend a book by at least one other author if I feel that another author may have a perspective to offer my client that is a wee bit different, but equally as helpful, as my own advice.
When I did a search on Amazon.com and other websites, what I quickly noticed was that there have been virtually no books written by men or women targeted at single heterosexual men that primarily centers on what types of women that men should avoid rather than pursue.
If you search for “books about types of men women should avoid,” more-than-likely, your search engine is going to return about at least 15 or 20+ website hits or results. The vast majority of dating and relationship book authors seem to gear their advice toward helping women in today’s dating scene (as I have mentioned many times before, women purchase far more books in the category of “dating and relationships self-help” or “marriage self-help” than men do. The only types of books most men want to read are books with titles like “How to seduce a woman and get laid in 48 hours or less”).
So, bottom line, that is what provoked my last article. The response and feedback I received was very flattering and overwhelming.
I ended up joking with some friends and supporters on Facebook that I should expand my last article into a book. A friend and loyal listener to my talk radio podcast program by the name of Alix encouraged me to do just that.
Starting with Wednesday, September 26, 2012, I said to myself, “I am going to write a 60 or 70 page book.” The next day, I upped that to 80 or 90 pages. By Saturday, I upped it to 115-125 pages. Next thing I know by Monday of this week, I had written 130-140 pages. Sometimes, when you are a writer, you get into a “flow.” Similar to a basketball player who gets into a “zone,” and all of his shots seem to be going into the basket.
I debated with a handful of title options such “The Ten Types of Women that Men Should Avoid in Today’s Dating Scene” and “Ms. Wrong: The Bachelor’s Guide to Avoiding Women with Issues” Finally, I decided on The Possibility of Sex: How Naive and Lustful Men are Manipulated by Women Regularly.
One thing I did not want to do in my new eBook is just blatantly “bash” women in a highly invalid manner. In all of my writings, I always try my best to offer a very “objective” point of view. There are a lot of good women in society who would make a great wife, a great girlfriend, and even a great platonic friend for a number of men, and I did not want to offer any off-base generalizations that would inevitably “lump” the good women with the bad apples in their gender.
This press release explains in more detail the structure and general content of my new eBook. Speaking of eBooks, the great thing about Amazon.com’s Kindle format is that any qualified author can publish an eBook in a matter of a day or two (assuming they own their own ISBN numbers, which I do). If I was going to first introduce this as a paperback, it would have taken me weeks, if not months to get it out on the market.
With Amazon’s Kindle format, I submitted the manuscript to Amazon on Wednesday morning, and by late afternoon / early evening on Thursday, it was available for sale on Amazon’s site.
Here is the craziest thing of all:
Amazon.com has a “ranking system” based on how many book sales you have per hour and/or per day. Each book has two rankings: Your overall ranking, and your category ranking, assuming your book cracks the Top 100 bestseller list on any given day (BlogTalkRadio, which is the Internet Radio Network that hosts my talk radio show, has the same set-up; Each day, they show you your overall ranking, and your individual category ranking).
Amazon.com has somewhere between 8,000,000 and 9,000,000 books available for sale to customers each day, each week, and each month. The most ideal ranking any author wants is to be in the Top 100 bestselling books overall. If you achieve that level, more than likely, your book has been on the New York Times Bestseller list at least once or twice.
My books have never been ranked in the Top 100 bestselling books overall (I still dream of that day before I leave this earth), but the next best thing is to have your book ranked in the Top 100 bestselling books in its specific category. I have managed to earn slots in the Top 100 category rankings multiple times.
Here would be an example of my highest ranking for the first three books I published:
1) Mode One: Let the Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking
Highest Overall ranking since being published in late February 2006: #10,167 (paperback) / #28,012 (Kindle eBook format)
Highest Top 100 ranking in one or more specific categories: #15 in the category of “Dating” (paperback) / #11 in the category of “Mate Seeking” (Kindle eBook format)
2) Upfront and Straightforward: Let the Manipulative Game Players Know What You’re REALLY Thinking
Highest Overall ranking since being published in April 2009: #36,815 (paperback) / #38,769 (Kindle eBook format)
Highest Top 100 ranking in one or more specific categories: #29 in the category of “Dating” (paperback) / #37 in the category of “Interpersonal Relations” (Kindle eBook format)
3) Oooooh . . . Say it Again: Mastering the Fine Art of Verbal Seduction and Aural Sex
Highest Overall ranking since being published in late December 2011: #38,543 (paperback) / #30,307 (Kindle eBook format)
Highest Top 100 ranking in one or more specific categories: #19 in the category of “Dating” (paperback) / #23 in the category of “Sex” (Kindle eBook format)
As you can see, of my first three books, one published as recent as December 2011, and my first paperback was released way back in 2006. As pleased as I am with some of my Top 100 category rankings, none of the first three paperbacks or Kindle eBooks I published on Amazon.com achieved an “overall ranking” that was less than five-figures or 10,000.
My latest Amazon Kindle eBook, The Possibility of Sex, had an overall ranking as high as #5,973 and two “Top 100” category rankings as high as #7 (“Sex”) and #28 (“Interpersonal Relations”) on Friday, October 5, 2012. I would have never, ever predicted that. No way. WOW. The eBook was just released on Thursday afternoon, October 4, 2012.
Will The Possibility of Sex now be my top bestseller? Only time will tell.
Am I “bragging” about my Amazon ranking? No. Because it was my followers, friends, and supporters who purchased and downloaded copies of the new eBook that contributed to the high Top 100 category ranking on Amazon. I could write what I think is the best self-help book ever written, but if only ten people buy it and read it … oh well. Also, the Amazon.com rankings fluctuate each day, and many times, even each hour. My eBook could have a ranking of #98,000 a week or two from now, or a ranking of #980,000 a month or two from now if sales do not maintain.
So, my most sincere thanks goes first to the men who asked me a number of great questions related to women, and answering many of those questions I received allowed me to accumulate enough content to write more than one hundred pages for this latest eBook.
If the sales keep up, I will surely publish this book as a paperback and probably release it sometime in December 2012 or January 2013 (this is actually the first time a Kindle eBook version of one of my books was available before the paperback version; Usually, I release the paperback version first, then a few weeks later, the Kindle eBook version)
All I have to say to those reading this right now: THANK YOU. I greatly appreciate the support of my new eBook. Enjoy your week.
The new eBook by Book Author Alan Roger Currie is available exclusively on Amazon.com in their Kindle format. You can also download a copy of Currie’s eBook on your iPhone, Android smartphone, or other smartphone. The eBook normally available for $7.99, but until October 31, 2012, you can purchase Currie’s new eBook for only $3.99. If you are sign up for Amazon.com’s PRIME membership, you can read Alan Roger Currie’s new eBook for FREE. More details on Amazon.com
Upfront & Straightforward with Alan Roger Currie, the most-listened to talk radio podcast program nationally in the category of “Romance” and dating & relationships on the BlogTalkRadio Internet Radio Network, can be heard LIVE every Thursday evening at 10:00pm EST / 7:00pm PST. Visit http://www.blogtalkradio.com/modeone and http://modeone.net for more details