When marriage reaches a threatening situation then it’s obvious that you may not respond to any sort of help offered to you, to save your marriage. In this condition, ignoring the valuable advice given by the near once is also very common. Ultimately, you and your spouse will feel that our relationship has come to an end and there is no way left to save my marriage.
Couples being through this situation hurt themselves as well as their family. Here family members play a crucial role in saving a marriage; they will guide you towards the right direction. Come on now, let’s face it, when spouses become heated you really don’t think clearly.
I think family members should support each other, as iron sharpens iron, we all know that there is at least one marriage around you that has made it through the toughest of storms. So why learn from their wisdom? Family members can make you realize that this is not the end of your relationship.
Divorce not only affects the respective couple but also affect their family members. Support and valuable advice provided by parents, relatives and siblings sometimes do some miracle in saving a marriage. Why are we so quick to throw in the towel, divorce is only an option because we make it one.
Now, I am so closed-minded that I don’t see that divorce has to be considered for some couples. Physical, mental or emotional abuse should absolutely be possible deal breakers. No one should have to subject themselves to sort of treatment from anyone.
I am talking about the arguments over who does more around the house, who has the better job or how you spend too much time with your friends. You may not be doing anything wrong when you’re out. But the time spent out is time away from your family. Thirty minutes with family and 4 hours with the friends is not equal and not fair in my book.
But even this scenario does not mean that you’re headed for divorce. Family first is a great rule of thumb to live by, let your family help when they can. It’s usual that you may feel angry and disheartened but in this situation if you are hurting your family then ultimately you are hurting yourself, which is even more painful.
Instead, try to remain calm and quiet and handle the situation in a matured way. Family members can play a significant role here. Any of the matured family members can become a sounding board so that hurting couple can share their internal feelings and frustration. An individual who is very close with the couple can perform this role better.
There is nothing wrong with leaning on family but keep a healthy balance, obviously not everything has be shared. Marriage. Gift and Responsibility. Work and Grace. Marriage is one of God’s greatest gifts but it is also one of the greatest responsibilities a person will share with his or her spouse.
It requires a great deal of work but at the same time it will be a wonderful source of God’s grace. Marriage is one of life’s deepest mysteries. How is it that committed relationships become engagements, engagements become marriages, and marriages deepen and bloom into lifelong, sacred bonds of support, honor, friendship, trust, and joy?
Two essential components of a healthy marriage are a committed spiritual life and a steadfast dedication to the growth of the spousal relationship. The couple should also nurture their relationship with God and develop a strong faith, because they will get closer to one another as they get closer to God. Enjoy your marriages and work out the rough edges, even if the rough edge is you.