Twilight fans can once again rejoice as Hollywood’s favorite young couple, Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson (Robsten) have reunited following a very public affair and subsequent scandal, reported NDTV on September 23, 2012.
Kristen Stewart Affair with Rupert Sanders Exposed in Photos
Stewart, 22, met Pattinson, 26, while working on the first Twilight film in 2008. Though the two never publicly verified a relationship before 2012, photographers routinely snapped photos of the two off set and appearing intimate. That media scrutiny would spell trouble for the couple when on July 17, 2012; Stewart was photographed in intimate settings with the director of her film Snow White and the Huntsman, Rupert Sanders. US Weekly published candid photos in a slideshow that featured Stewart and Sanders in a number of compromising positions that would threaten the actress’ relationship with Pattinson and put Sanders’ marriage to Vogue model Liberty Ross in jeopardy. You may view the US Weekly photos of Stewart and Sanders here. It did not help matters that US Weekly pointed out that Stewart was wearing Pattinson’s baseball cap while sojourning with Sanders.
Celebrities Respond to Stewart Affair: Team Rob or Team Stewart?
Response to the affair was unrestrained. Fans promptly stated their outrage and displeasure. The news opened new dialogue with some questioning whether Stewart was unfairly targeted while Sanders was absolved of responsibility for the affair. Where past Twilight film installments were entrenched with shouts of Team Edward and Team Jacob, the affair quickly shifted attention to Team Stewart, Team Rob, and Team Sanders. No doubt, fans sympathized the greatest with Pattinson and reports of celebrities weighing in on the scandal quickly surfaced. The China Daily reported that Lady Gaga sided with Stewart. Celeb Buzz reported on the views of Kathy Griffin, Will Ferrell, and Brandi Glanville regarding the affair fallout. The Daily Mail captured Brandi Glanville’s tweets slamming Stewart. Radar Online reported that Snow White and the Huntsman co-star Charlize Theron was furious with Stewart over the affair.
Pattinson had his share of celebrity supporters. According to Heat World, Katy Perry offered her support and Pattinson’s Water for Elephants costar Reece Witherspoon gave Pattinson a place to stay as well as a shoulder to cry on. The report even stated that Pattinson had the full support of his Twilight cast.
How to Respond When a Couple Suffers Infidelity
The way celebrities, the public and personal friends to Stewart and Pattinson responded to the affair brings an important issue to the forefront: How to deal with a friend who either cheated or was cheated on. It is common to take sides when infidelity occurs, but well meaning friends and family members should always keep in mind that the couple may reunite. Sometimes concerned friends may make comments during a couple’s time of distress that can hurt a friendship down the road.
For instance, if a couple breaks up and a friend says something to the effect of, “Well, good riddance. I never liked that so and so anyway. You are so better off without her. Let me tell you what she said about you behind your back, etc.” Comments to this effect can put undue strain on a friendship should the couple reunite. Unless you are 100% certain that a couple won’t reunite or a transgression worthy of a criminal act has occurred, it’s best to keep your comforting advice to a minimum and to focus solely on the feelings of the person you are speaking with. Make no mistake about it; Stewart will keep track of everyone who insulted her to Pattinson. It’s human nature. In times of crises, humans show their true colors and feelings. After a couple breaks up and reunites, it isn’t uncommon to see some shifting in friends as well. For example, how will Reece Witherspoon react to news that Stewart and Pattinson have reunited? Should Stewart reach out to Witherspoon and thank her for assisting Pattinson in his time of need. What if Witherspoon has made the case against reuniting to Pattinson, yet he chose to reunite. Their future relationship can be strained. It is best to offer a friendly ear, a shoulder to cry on, and listen to a grieving partner dealing with an affair, or to help the person who cheated come to terms with their actions as they struggle with shame and guilt. Badmouthing the other person most often backfires in the end. The exception of course, is when domestic violence or other criminal acts are involved. In situations like these, sometimes a person needs to be reminded why they shouldn’t go back to an abusive partner.
Stewart Admits, Accepts, and Apologizes for Affair
After the publication of the US Weekly photos, Stewart made a move unfamiliar in many cases of Hollywood infidelity: She apologized to Pattinson through a public statement.
Instead of denying the affair, or trying to pass off the photos as altered, edited, or somehow misleading, Stewart immediately owned up to the affair and publicly apologized.
On July 25, 2012, Stewart issued a public apology for the affair through People Magazine. Stewart’s apology reads as follows, “I’m deeply sorry for the hurt and embarrassment I’ve caused to those close to me and everyone this has affected. This momentary indiscretion has jeopardized the most important thing in my life, the person I love and respect the most, Rob. I love him, I love him, I’m so sorry.”
Not only did Stewart acknowledge, admit, and take responsibility for the affair, she publicly revealed her love for Robert Pattinson. Fans quickly looked at Stewart’s description of the affair as a “momentary indiscretion” and challenged the claim. Stewart gave the impression that the affair was a brief, blip in the timeline of the eternal love that would be “Robsten.” The question of how long the affair lasted may or may not matter to Pattinson.
Forgiveness and Reuniting after Broken Trust
On the surface, a long-term relationship naturally seems harder to recover from then a brief, sexual tryst but the truth is that all betrayal hurts and takes time to recover from. It takes the same amount of forgiveness to move past a long-term affair or a weekend fling as broken trust keeps no scorecards. When trust is broken, it is broken and needs to be repaired.
Many fans were beginning to despair that Stewart and Pattinson would never move forward in their relationship. Some questioned whether Pattinson should forgive Stewart or cut his losses, take his broken heart and retreat quietly until it mended. It is possible that Stewart’s quick ownership of the affair helped Pattinson choose to forgive.
Sometimes, the only way to recover from infidelity is to make a conscious choice to forgive, do your best to forget, and move forward with your relationship.
Stewart is no Tiger Woods: PR Mistakes Following Infidelity
Stewart did not lie about the affair and made no attempts to cover it up. She didn’t need to issue a series of apologetic statements that revealed a bit more information, such as was seen with the Tiger Woods scandal. With Woods, one day he released a tiny portion of information, and then another mistress was revealed. It took nearly a year before Woods owned up to his sexual addiction and by then, more than a dozen mistresses were proudly telling their stories, headlining in strip clubs, and hiring lawyers to get their fair share.
This is not to say we are comparing Stewart with Woods, by no means is there a comparison. However, when it comes to handling a scandal, one can learn a great deal from owning up to it quickly and moving on. Remember David Letterman’s affair? Do you remember who he slept with? Yeah, that’s right. We didn’t think so. Letterman quickly addressed the scandal and it quickly disappeared. One of the greatest PR disasters is letting a scandal linger and fester for a year or more.
So, does this mean we can expect to see Stewart and Pattinson walk hand in hand to the Twilight Saga: Breaking Dawn Part 2 premiere?
We’re counting on it. How about you? Are you excited to hear that Robsten is an item again?
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