Three years ago, I wrote Speak truth, not lies, into your life. The article was about how we call ourselves names and say things to ourselves about ourselves that are ugly and untrue.
You’d think that the revelation and corrective action would last longer than three years! Apparently not. It’s typical of most believers, I think, to rely on God’s strength to get rid of some baggage or some habit they’ve been carrying around, and then to pick it up again at some point in the future.
The important thing to do is to recognize it and take action. Read on and hopefully in three years, there will be no need to re-address the issue!
“I’m an idiot.”
I say that to myself frequently.
This morning, I walked out to my car to go to work and realized I had forgotten my cell phone. I turned around, unlocked the door to my house, put all of my bags down, walked into my bedroom and looked at where my cell phone normally rested on its charger. No cell phone. I left my bedroom and looked into my purse, and behold! The cell phone was in my purse the whole time.
“I’m an idiot.”
Sometimes, instead of saying to myself, “I’m an idiot,” I mix things up for variety’s sake and say, “I’m so stupid.“
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t really think I’m an idiot or that I’m stupid. That is simply my reaction when I am absent-minded or I make a mistake.
But here’s the problem: instead of reacting with words that condemn ourselves, why not just go about our day realizing we are only imperfect human beings? It’s normal to be absent-minded and make mistakes. Why must we condemn ourselves with put-downs and name-calling?
What’s worst is that every time we call ourselves derogatory names, I’m certain God is offended. He created us in His image, He loves us beyond our understanding, and yet we dare call ourselves “idiots?” “Stupid?”
The best way to avoid this whole self-condemnation thing is to never start. When you start with self-condemnation, it slowly begins to happen with each little mistake until your entire day is spent muttering under your breath, “I’m an idiot.” It just comes out.
Before long, however, it will spread to those around you, and the words, “You’re an idiot” will come forth just as easily as “I’m an idiot.“
If you, like me, are a self-condemning mutterer, it’s time for a change. Turn those words around and speak truth, not lies, into your life! Turn those curses into blessings!
When you feel those words, “I’m an idiot” begin to form, replace them with “I’m a beloved child of God.” (John 1:22)
Instead of “I’m so stupid,” try “I’m a joint heir with Jesus Christ.” (Romans 8:17)
God made us who we are (For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. Psalm 139:13), and when He sees us, we are not idiots nor stupid. Let’s choose to view ourselves as our Heavenly Father sees us, and remind ourselves who we are in Him.
“The greatest enemy of the spiritual life is self-rejection BECAUSE it contradicts the Voice that calls you Beloved.” – Henri Nouwin