Just about every woman who has been in a long term relationship has had those moments when she’s wondered, ‘Is this all there is?’ ‘Is he really the one?’ All of us are probably guilty of staying in relationship a little longer than we should have, out of fear. Fear of change, fear of the unknown and fear of making a mistake.
These fears can be crippling. It’s hard to walk away from a relationship when women have been brainwashed into thinking that there are no good men out there. There are a few ways that you can tell when a relationship has run its course and that it may be time to walk away.
1. You don’t think about him much throughout the course of your day. Couples in love talk to each other all through the day if they can. They’re texting, emailing, Facebooking, etc. And when that B**** at work pisses you off, the first thing you want to do is call your Boo and tell him about it. When you’re at the grocery store or out shopping, you are always thinking about little things that you can pick up for him…just because. When you stop doing those things and you can go through the course of your day without thinking about him (in a positive way) then, that’s a problem.
2. You don’t look forward to spending time with him. You’re due to meet him for drinks after work and you’d really rather go home. The thought of spending time with him no longer fills you with excitement. And when you are hanging out with him, you’re bored, distracted and looking at the other happy couples, wishing you were one of them.
3. He’s no longer in your big picture. When you think about where you would like to be in the future, you don’t really picture him by your side. If it’s your dream to live in a condo in the South Loop and you picture yourself there all alone, then that may tell you something. If you’re watching Weddings on the Style channel and you don’t see that in your future (at least not with him) then it may be time to move on to someone you can’t wait to spend your forever with.
4. You fantasize about other people way too much. It’s natural to think about other men every once in a while – even in an intimate way. When you find that you are fantasizing about other people and situations as a way to escape your reality, then that probably means that you are unhappy with your life as it is.
Sometimes issues like these can be dealt with by having an open and honest discussion with your partner. It may be that you need to spice up your relationship or re-examine your goals. But, if you truly feel any of the things previously discussed more often than not, it may be time to walk away.