Let’s face it, couples split apart. Chances are you won’t spend the rest of your life with the biological father of your children. But this doesn’t mean you will not meet someone else who is right for you. However, when choosing your new mate, you should take your children into consideration as well. Also, some of the things you should be finding out about are if your potential mate likes children, if he has or wants any more children, and if he is capable of being a good father.
Introduce your children to your potential mates.
Children are very intuitive. They will be able to sense whether or not it will be good for you to have him around. Ask them what they think about your potential mates. Their opinions should be valued and taken into consideration when you decide on whom you would like to get to know a lot better. This can help save you and your children some grief in the future.
Invite your kids out.
Pay attention to the way your date reacts to your children. Does he appear comfortable in their presence or does he seem irritated? It is natural for children to argue, fight, and play. And both parents must exercise patience when dealing with their children. How does your date behave when it is time to pay the bill? Does he appear happy or does he look upset? If it is the former, he may not have any problems contributing financially to the household if you decide to become seriously involved and live together in the future.
Observe the way your potential mates interacts with your children on the home front.
This will give you a better idea of how your potential mate will get along with you on a daily basis. Have him come over for dinner. A barbecue is excellent for this because of the amount of time it takes to prepare the meal. When he arrives, offer him a seat and allow him to have a few drinks. Take note. Does he offer to help prepare the meal or does he kick back and allow you to do all the work? Does he laugh and joke with your children, or does he ignore them and continue to ask for another drink? The answers to these questions will give you some idea about his personality.
Test his parenting IQ.
Find out how much your potential mate knows about children. For example, does he know how to change a diaper and if he can tell when a child is sick or hungry. If he has siblings are children himself, he should know quite a bit. If not, maybe his interests are not family oriented. And if this is the case, you should keep looking ahead.