Before we learn how to be afraid of love, we fall in love. It’s when we get hurt that we get the idea of “Never Again. No thanks.”
That first heartbreak sets us off to accept negative views about men or women. We get the impression we can’t really be truly satisfied with one person.
But that’s foolish to believe that being burnt in relationships makes you doom to forever to never find the real deal. You’re not doomed to find love. You just need to get fed up with the crap disillusioned adults give to you about love.
Media, friends, family who settle for less often allow you to accept really low expectations just to protect yourself in relationships.
Have you ever caught yourself not wanting to get too involved or be too open with one person just to avoid getting hurt or being humiliated?
Whether you see it or not…you’re the only person that can prevent yourself from real love.
To have that relationship you want, that love you want, you need to come from a position of power.
You can gain a position of power by listening to what your potential love interest has to say about life and love.
We all learn from our environment what is love. Sometimes what we learn isn’t what is love.
Haven’t you noticed, the best romantic relationships have a powerful woman/man in it who believes in her/his ability to influence love?
It’s easy to be told what reality to adopt in your own head. Most of us do this when it comes to finding love. But it’s foolish to believe people and events don’t influence us every day.
The people closest to us influence us every day, in good and bad ways.
So, if the people around you have bad perceptions of love and commitment…there’s a good chance you will too.
When you learn better, you do better. It happens. We decide for sure something was the truth. Later, someone or some idea comes along and makes us change our mind.
You’re powerless when you decide to be that truth someone or something told you to be.
Never let the quality of your relationship with a man or woman be at the mercy of what his or her less than true preconceived ideas about relationships…especially love.
Just because someone says something is true, doesn’t mean it’s actually true. You need to have the courage to acknowledge that you guide your life and only you. If you want real love, you can have it.
When you believe in yourself and know you deserve the best and can have it all, you instantly increase your attractiveness and desirability to the men/women around you.
Science has proven that monogamy can exist voluntarily between people. In fact, men and women can still be madly in love with each other even after 20 or more years of marriage. Love can become even more romantic and intense in attraction over time.
The way you feel amazed about one person and cannot get that person out of your head, someone can feel that way about you not just for a few weeks or months…but for a lifetime.
You deserve it all. Fulfilling a man or woman should never be exhaustive.
The one will be the person you’re relaxed with and you can be yourself with at all times.
This is possible when you change your mindset about love and how to obtain it.
A positive mindset will make you succeed at anything at life. It’s not about trying and effort…it’s mindset.
For more lifestyle enrichment tips, news, community empowerment,advice, guest blogs and freebies visit our website Fromgirltogirl.com !
If you would like to guest blog, contact Fromgirltogirl Founder, Briana,at BrianaBooker@Fromgirltogirl.com .
Check us out on Facebook and Twitter !