I have no idea where this “cuffing season” trend originated or why it’s perpetuated year after year. But the concept that guys do the dramatic fade in for the fall and then leave at Bolt speed in the spring sounds like the kind of front that people create so they don’t come off as weak. It’s almost as if they’re afraid to admit to themselves that the single life they glorify in spring and summer isn’t what it’s all cracked up to be.
A guy can deny and deflect all he wants, but being in a good relationship is a dope feeling. Though how we define “good” isn’t unanimous, there are certain things we can identify when it comes to defining a good relationship. It’s one where you can look at two people and they just exude love and happiness. She’ll never throw hot grits on him, even if he stays up for 12 hours playing Madden online. He doesn’t mind taking a day to give her undivided attention. In the midst of their emotional bond manifesting as physical affection, you can tell that they genuinely like each other at the most elementary level. Some say you don’t sh*t where you eat (as a euphemism for not dating close friends). But who wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with someone who respects and accepts them for who they are?
We’re not meant to walk this planet alone as bitter, cynical beings. Among the perks of occassional unprotected sex, being in a relationship satisfies the most basic of needs for both genders. I know for me, I like to know that my girlfriend supports me. I like to be able to discuss my plans, hopes, and dreams. If I’m excited about something, which I always am because I’m extremely driven, I want to be able to share it with her and know she’ll be excited for me. And it goes both ways. Whether it’s a new job or a stressed week at work, I want her to know that I got her back. Everybody needs a cheerleader.
Look at some of the great men of our time. Majority of them had women who supported them unconditionally. It’s not always a bad thing to have lofty expectations of your hard work. When you’ve cleared a hurdle or reached a new height, it’s always sweeter to have someone you love there to initiate the celebratory toast.
Nothing is fool-proof and things can fall apart. You can find single people out there who are serial daters and they’re just as happy as couples who have been married for 30+ years. However, there comes a time where you have to admit to yourself that a fulfilled, quality relationship with someone who can share your passions in life is desirable.