It’s so important to establish some great open communication with your child and it’s never too early to start! Sometimes your child may come to you to talk about something or it may be that you’re going to your child to talk. How far the conversation goes will depend on the signals that you’re sending!
1. FACIAL EXPRESSIONS: No raised eyebrows or scowls! No smirks or rolling of the eyes. I’m sure you don’t like it when they do it to you, so my guess is that they don’t like it either!
2. SARCASM: Kids feel insulted when people laugh them off and try to make light of things by being sarcastic. If they’re trying to talk to you about something, they won’t feel listened to! You may be trying to help your child by “softening” it in your own way, but a child needs to be listened to and not be laughed at.
3. SOUNDS: No groaning or sighing! It sounds dismissive and as if you don’t care!
4. BODY LANGUAGE: Sometimes parents try to act casual, feeling that they’re being receptive, but leaning back with your arms folded behind your head doesn’t convey the message that you may be trying to give. That just separates and cuts a person off. Standing above your child isn’t a good position either because it just looks dominant and not open. Sit down together and talk!
5. LISTEN: Resist the need to dominate the conversation and try to “fix” things. It usually takes kids a few more minutes to organize what they have to say and their words don’t come out at easily as yours. Listen to your child. “Hear” their words and their feelings!
6. YELLING AND ANGER: As much as what you child may have to tell you may make you mad and want to yell, control yourself! All yelling and anger do is separate and cut people off. If it’s something that your child needs to talk about, know that they were scared to approach you! The more you shut off your child, the more they will be afraid to talk to you. If it’s something that you really need to “digest” before you continue, tell them that but come back to them as soon as you’re calm enough to talk. Don’t ever cut off the lines of communication and have your child afraid to talk to you!
It’s so important to have to child realize that you care enough to listen and help them through different situations in life. If you start this early in their childhood, you will be establishing the open communication that you need to create. Those teen years are just around the corner for many of you and you can’t expect to have your child suddenly come to you if you’ve never been an involved listener before!
HAVE FUN WITH YOUR CHILD:
Tuesday, Oct. 30: Spooky Halloween Dance Party at Bass Park in Ft. Lauderdale.
Children ages 5-11 (grades K-5) will love this free even with spooky games, craft projects, great food, music and more. 6:30-8:30. 2750 NW 19th Street 954-828-8498. www.fortlauderdale.gov
Wednesday, Oct. 31: Trick-or-Treat & Haunted House at Roosevelt Gardens Park, Davie Games, Prizes, Refreshments. Free event. 5:30-7:30 2841 NW 11th Street 954-327-3888.
Young At Art
The new museum is amazing! Imagination Activation!
At YAA, the possibilities are as endless as your imagination. Ride a subway, visit a cave and discover a dig in ArtScapes. STOMP to the rhythm, build sand sculptures and recycled puppets in GreenScapes. Learn about faraway customs in CultureScapes. Explore the world of Alice in WonderScapes. Create a masterpiece in every gallery!
751 SW 121st Ave. Davie, FL 33325 954-424-0085. http://youngatartmuseum.org/
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