“We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.” – Dr. Seuss
If you’ve ever been lucky enough to feel the magical thing known as “love,” then you’ve probably also felt the pain of heartbreak. As we mature, we learn the ups and downs of relationship roller coasters and that we can’t always be happy (or sad) for too long.
Here are 15 profound relationship tips. You might want to print them out and review them:
- Keep positive. No one owes you anything in life. Your happiness depends solely on your own effort. No one can make you happy.
- Make a life for yourself. Expectations can interfere with truly enjoying the moment, so try to keep an open mind. The less you expect of others, the more satisfying your life will be.
- Seek your own approval. You don’t need anyone to validate your self-worth. Your opinion of yourself is what matters most.
- Don’t lose yourself. Some of us focus so much on love that we lose ourselves in the process. Remember that your needs, hopes and dreams are most important, no matter what.
- Communicate your needs. Along the lines of #4, don’t expect your partner to be a mind-reader. Open up and speak your mind. Don’t lose your voice out of fear of rejection.
- Forge your own space. You don’t need to become joined at the hip with your significant other. Keep doing what you love and continue developing other friendships.
- Enjoy being intimate. Fun in the bedroom should be mutual. If it feels like a chore then find out why the passion is missing. Don’t settle for someone who can’t meet your needs.
- LISTEN. Take the time and effort to really focus on your partner’s needs by giving your undivided attention. Be considerate and listen with intent to improve your relationship.
- Compromise but know your boundaries. It’s good to be flexible and accommodate to your mate, but you shouldn’t have to lose yourself or give up your values in a relationship. Know what your personal boundaries are and be strong enough to choose yourself over a loved one.
- Avoid hitting a rut. Don’t forget to stay sassy, no matter how long you’ve been with someone. Spice up your love life and your partner will be less likely to feel “bored.”
- Find your true match. If you are incompatible with your partner, it will eventually come out when the honeymoon stage ends. Find the one who most mirrors your soul. Make sure you also have similar spending habits, sexual desires and religious beliefs to avoid resentment.
- Respect each other. Don’t ignore any sign of contempt because that’s a sign that your partner has checked out of the relationship.
- Be independent. In any life event, it’s a good idea to be able to be self-sufficient.
- Trust but verify. It’s good to have trust for your partner but don’t be too naive to be sure they’re trustworthy. Most betrayals come from the blindside.
- Take things slow! If you want to be sure that the person you’re with is someone you’ll be able to relate to long term, make friends with them first. Avoid rushing to the bedroom until you’ve discovered you could see a future with that person.
In the case of compatibility, you’ll want to be sure that you both have similar parenting styles if you both plan on having children together.
Another bonus tip is to remember to keep your love alive. A quick hello or text saying, “can’t wait to see you tonight” is enough to make your partner’s day move quicker.
What other tips have you learned over the years?
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