Caregivers are more and more often in today’s society to be made up of either women or men, and as we all know women and men approach tasks differently. Men seem to be more fact and outcome motivated while women seem to be more emotion and feelings motivated.
Using this as a guide, which seems to be the better caregiver? The truth is either one can be the better caregiver. The key to being a good caregiver is, for me, empathy. If a caregiver can empathize with the person and connect on that and other levels, the match seems to be good for both. Frequently, when hiring a caregiver we find that if we request a male caregiver, it is harder to meet that goal. Male caregivers are not in great supply, whereas women seem to be.
Caregiver ethnic background is not supposed to matter and in most cases today it does not. Only if we find ourselves dealing with an issue stemming from a specific event, in our person’s past, do we see this as an issue. It was not all that many years ago, when ethnicity was one of the first rules of hiring we had to face. Today depending on the events drawn on to form a life, do we need to look at this as a factor in hiring caregivers?
This is one of the reasons it is very important to have family members involved in the interviewing process to bring a new caregiver on board, and that brings us to the next step in hiring a caregiver. When looking for a caregiver and most especially if there are some extenuating circumstances in the hiring, as the family or advocate we can be as proactive as necessary. This means if there is an agency involved, they may try to run the caregiver train, but we have the right and obligation to become the conductor. We need to be very proactive and express our need to interview and have the final say in the hiring of a caregiver, not just take whoever is sent to the home to fill the honor of caregiver.
Please take the time to read this last sentence again and truly digest the meaning and objectives of that sentence. (1) be proactive; (2) stand tall and unwavering on interviewing the applicants (do not just take who they say will be showing up at 2:00PM); and (3) this position is an honor to have and perform (not just a job or task to get through to a pay check). If we approach the hiring of a caregiver using this as a guideline, we should not go wrong in our selection. www.MySeniorCareGuide.com
Should we begin to have a gut feeling that something is not right, even when we don’t know what that something is, go with our gut feeling. There can always be a personality conflict and as such is a block we are unable to remove. This is where so many family members get in trouble. Either we do not heed the warning or we do not want to rock the boat so to speak. Remember we are the ultimate one responsible for the health and well-being of our person.