After seeing an event posting for a speed dating event on Meetup.com, I recently decided to give it try. I had run across Professionals in the City’s website nearly a year ago and considered it, but never attended any of the events, even after seeing the Today Show run a segment on their services. It helped that my Meetup group was offering a small discount for members who attended.
If you’re single in the Washington, DC area you know how hard it can be sometimes to meet potential mates. Though DC is booming with a ton of single professionals, making the time to actually go out and meet each other isn’t always easy. If you’ve gotten tired of the bar scene and have exhausted nearly every online dating site out there, speed dating could be a great step at finding new friends or meeting dates.
I attended an Interracial dating event hosted at the Chi Cha Lounge on U Street. When signing in, participants are given ID badges, a sheet of paper and a pencil to record notes about each other. As expected, women were seated at numbered tables, while the men rotated from table to table in four-minute increments. Four minutes is not a long time to get to know someone, which makes the types of questions daters ask all the more crucial.
One participant said, “You don’t want to ask typical questions like, ‘what do you do?’ or ‘where are you from?’ Those are typical DC-dater questions,”
“Ask questions that relate to your personal interests, like ‘what types of books do you read?’ It’s the best way to see if that person is a good match for you.”
I noticed that many of the men did not write notes about the women they sat with. I asked a particular gentleman that sat at my table if this was because he wasn’t interested in any of the women. His response:
“No, I just think it’s silly to make notes about you. I mean, what are you writing about me? Is it even nice? If I’m into a person, I’m going to remember them.”
Professionals in the City hosts a number of professional gatherings in Washington, DC, Baltimore, MD, Los Angeles, CA and other major cities across the country. Whether you are looking for a particular age range, type of profession, religious affiliation, interracial dating, etc. Professionals in the City probably has a speed dating event catered to your interests.
Pros: Great for networking. I met a person with similar career interests and made friends with people going to future events I plan to attend.
Cons: The women outnumbered the men at least 5 to 1. There were moments when a few women would be sitting awkwardly alone at their tables.
While I’m not sure if I met a long-term match with Professionals in the City, I do hope to go to another of their professional dating events. I was given this advice before going in:
“Don’t go into this thinking, ‘I’m gonna meet somebody for sure!’ Think, ‘I’m going into this with an open mind, and whether I meet someone or not, it’s a good experience.'”
How about you? Have you tried Professionals in the City or any other organized speed dating? How was your experience?
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