Does it really matter if Jesus was married? For Christian Spiritualists, our focus is on the teachings of Jesus rather than the life of Jesus. Within our church, there are a few that look at Jesus as their savior and path to heaven. For most of us in our church, we believe that we are responsible for our own actions and Jesus cannot save us from any of the consequences of what we have done. We sit side by side with these differing beliefs. Our approach is that each person is responsible for their own spirit path.
Two of the nine principles of spiritualism relate the importance of nature to the will of the Creator.
Physical and Spiritual Nature are the expression of God’s creation.
A correct understanding of Nature and living in the spirit of God constitute true religion.
There is nothing in nature to suggest that sexual union is unholy. Perhaps celibacy is seen as a sacrifice to God to somehow gain favor with God. The Creator of All That Is cannot be bribed by either gifts or sacrifice of natural desires. We were created as sexual beings, and Jesus appeared in human form with human desires.
Teaching that Jesus was celibate is hard to reconcile given the widespread belief in many religions that producing offspring is a beautiful and sacred part of life. Human beings are sexual in nature, and attempts to stifle sexuality have resulted in sexual abuse and illicit relationships where marriage is not permitted. A married Jesus is no less holy than an unmarried Jesus. The Bible does not provide any proof of Jesus’ marital status either way.
If Jesus were married, it certainly would not be all about sex. As in all relationships, the most important aspects are the love and respect that is interchanged between the partners in the marriage. From what is portrayed in the Bible, Mary Magdalene displayed the love and affection that would make her a good life partner for Jesus. She exhibited great courage after the crucifixion in going to the tomb to take care of Jesus’ body. She received great comfort when Jesus appeared to her after His death. These encounters seem to be more than expected from a casual relationship.
Two more of the nine principals of spiritualism discuss what is really important in terms of being on the spirit path.
The highest morality is contained in the golden rule: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
Each person is responsible for their own happiness or unhappiness as they obey or disobey natural, physical and spiritual laws.
These two principles reaffirm the importance of how we treat each other and the consequences of our actions in determining what happens in our lives. Spiritualists have no reason to care whether Jesus was married or not. His being married or unmarried doesn’t matter nearly as much as how Jesus taught that we should respect each other and that spiritual intent and actions were much more important than a cookbook set of laws for religious practices.
There is major turmoil right now about how religious leaders are being depicted. Religious followers are focused on how the leaders are being depicted, and not paying much attention to the actual teachings. There are elements of truth in all religions, and those that follow the spirit of a religion will generally be better human beings for that. Those that focus on issues like married versus unmarried are missing the greater message.
Jesus said that the only two things required to be a follower of Jesus, i.e. to be a Christian, “Love God and love your neighbor as yourself”.
Jesus said this about marriage:
Jesus told them, “At the beginning of creation God made them male and female; for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. They are no longer two but one.”
Perhaps Jesus never mentioned being married because He considered his wife to be a part of Himself. If that was the case, He was a great husband. At a minimum, He supported marriage. There will be a tempest in a teapot over this issue in the coming months. It doesn’t really matter much because it doesn’t change Jesus’ importance as a great spiritual example. The rest is just gossip.