It was Plato who said, “The first and best victory is to conquer self.” For reaching goals this especially applies to emotional mastery. Indeed, as Anthony Robbins shares, we are driven by two forces, pain and pleasure. Be sure to pick up his book, Awaken the Giant Within at Cleveland’s Hudson Book Sellers.
Those who reach their goals are able to do so in large part because they use these forces to their advantage. Rather than give up when pain is applied, they use it as a motivator. Some see pain as a thing to avoid; winners see pain as information to lead them to an intelligent choice.
Which brings us to step three of the Dickens test. Step one was to associate pain to a future where your goals are left unmet. The key is to describe in detail how you would feel and what you would miss out on in five years if you don’t reach your dreams. It is absolutely essential that you are able to feel this picture emotionally, to fully step into the future and feel what it would be like to know the regret of lost opportunities.
Step two was the opposite picture. Imagine in five years what your life would be like if you had reached your goals and were living your dream life. Again, it is essential to feel the feelings of that path. If you haven’t associated yourself into these two pictures, take twenty minutes and close your eyes and visualize both of these outcomes until in your heart you experience the emotions of each picture.
Your subconscious mind does not know the difference between a real event and one that is vividly imagined. This is why nightmares can be so scary. In this exercise you are consciously choosing to run your brain and feel the emotions of these pictures. If you do this with enough intensity you should literally cry when thinking about the future you don’t want and then smile and feel tremendous joy when stepping into the future of your dreams.
Now, step three is to hold both of these pictures in your mind. Just like Scrooge learned, both outcomes were still available. He had to make a choice in the present about which one he would pursue. Again, how you will reach your goals is not important yet, only the decision to take the next step matters.
Consider, it takes 75% of a rockets fuel supply to lift it off the ground, the break the earth’s gravitational pull. The other 186,000 miles to the moon is mostly momentum. The first step is the hardest, but once you make the step momentum will build until you rapidly reach your first goal, then your second, then your third, and so on.
So hold both pictures in your mind, feel them both, then decide which one you are committed to pursuing. The choice is yours.